New Button

Look over there, not there but right there under my profile, you see the new button. That is RAK, a wonderful idea brought to you by my friend Jen. It is just a small way for you to make your part of the world a happier place, even if it is just for a second. Who wouldn't want more happy in their world. Just think if everyone that reads this participates we increase our chances of more happiness. Don't just sit there reading this click on my new button and find out what you can do. SMILE!!!

Beach Pictures

Well we survived the trip to the beachand it was so much fun, here are some pictures.

Finally Getting There

For so long it was hard for me to do things with the two boys by myself. I was so stressed out because Kastan is 4 and half years older than Kye so he was in a completely different stage than Kye. He was bored with the baby stuff and I would feel guilty for trying to make him do it. Kye was also so brave that one glance away and he would be off running to danger. So a well intended trip would often end in a stressed out mama and bored kids. Well last week was different. I took the boys to the beach and it was fun. I put a life jacket on Kye so that relieved some of my anxiety wuth him. Kastan was able to go out far enough to have a good time. It was so much fun that I am going to go again today with them. I will share pictures from our day when we get back!

Not That Mom

The one thing I hate about any group situations in the forming of cliques and the judging of others. I mean it starts in school, moves on to work and other group settings but the biggest arena for judgement is motherhood. I swear there are so many groups, labels and parenting styles and all of them think they are the best and leave little room for accepting others outside their realm. I think I am very good at understanding that most mothers want nothing but the absolute best for their children. The way they provide it is their way and who am I to judge. Once I realized this I was also able to accept my mothering style and quit trying to live up to others standards. I am only one person I can only manage so much. I am ok knowing that I will never be that mother that loves to spend my weekends with sport activities. I mean Kastan has played, soccer, football and basketball and soon wants to enroll in Karate. I think it is great and all but we only do one sport at a time, we are there to have fun and it doesn't have to be a complete family affair. I am ok with that, my kids are ok with that, all is well in the end. I am big on manners, my kids always say please, thank you, excuse me and address adults with a title. This is my thing although I think it is important doesn't mean that if other parents let their kids call me Anji I should judge, that is their way.
I saw this mom with 3 young children in line at Wal-mart the other day and her baby was crying the whole time. She had a rambuncious preschooler and a school aged child that needed to go to the restroom right then and of course for whatever reason her credit card was not working. I could just see the stress in her face and wanted to give her a hug. She turned around red-faced and said I'm so sorry. I replied It's ok I have kids I totally understand, thinking to myself I have been that mom! I stayed in line behind her even though another lane opened because I didn't want some impatient person standing behind her adding to the stress. I talked to her kids and felt like I made that part of her trip just a little bit better. Shouldn't we always try to do this for each other?

My Pledge To Me

I am really bent around the axle about this whole soccer mom thing and my inability to juggle both motherhood and taking care of me. I am going to make a pledge to myself to remember myself. Remember I deserve to have my hair done. Something simple, I like myself as a blonde and need to keep up with it. If I see the well water turning my hair brassy I need to get a condtion treatment. If I see roots coming in, I need to go get it done. I have truely learned my lesson with taking the cheap route. I walked around looking like Ronald McDonald, not a good look for anyone. All because I wanted to save some money and went to a cheap salon, never again. It is true, you get what you pay for! I need to remember to take care of my body, this means exercise and diet well. I know we are given only one body, I need to treat it like I love it. I need to exercise daily, it doesn't always have to be a smoke session but I do need to get active. I need to realize everything I put in my body. Does a person really need that many sweets. Do I really want to drink so much soda it runs through my veins. Do I really need to soak up so much sun my skin is begging for moisture? I am going to remember how nice clothes makes you feel better. How it gives cconfidence to do a good job and helps portray confidence. These are basic needs but I pledge to take them seriously and keep them in perspective!

I was not born a soccer mom

Really, I wasn't. At one time I was a cool, party girl that cared about fashion, fun and girly things. I miss that girl, I let to much of her fall to the waste side. I get so wrapped up in getting through the days at an exhausted rate. I rush to get by doing the minimum and it shows in my appearance. The funny thing is I put so much of me aside and I say it is for motherhood but the truth is I slack in that also. We eat out way too much, they watch way too many cartoons, my house is way too messy, I am unorganized, I mismanage money. I am in a funk and I need to get out of it. I hate the way I look, I mean really hate it. I cringe at pictures of myself and want to delete them. This is not me, I promise to quit making it me. I want to love my body, my hair and my clothes. I want to organize my life, home and self. I want to be happy and the way I see it, I'm currently exhausted now with nothing completed to a good standard so why not stay exhausted for a better, happier me.

New at this

Well I am jumping into the blogging crowd. It seems like all the cool kids are doing it. I have read a couple of blogs lately and it seems interesting. I just hope that I can be entertaining enough for some one to read every now and then. Even if noone reads maybe it will be a stress relief to come here and talk about all the craziness that is my life. Right now I seem to be in a good spot in my life but I must admit it is a crazy roller coaster ride that has it's extreme ups and downs. Let's face it me living with all males has to be a crazy life but now that it is my life I wouldn't want it any other way! Until next time..................