The one thing I hate about any group situations in the forming of cliques and the judging of others. I mean it starts in school, moves on to work and other group settings but the biggest arena for judgement is motherhood. I swear there are so many groups, labels and parenting styles and all of them think they are the best and leave little room for accepting others outside their realm. I think I am very good at understanding that most mothers want nothing but the absolute best for their children. The way they provide it is their way and who am I to judge. Once I realized this I was also able to accept my mothering style and quit trying to live up to others standards. I am only one person I can only manage so much. I am ok knowing that I will never be that mother that loves to spend my weekends with sport activities. I mean Kastan has played, soccer, football and basketball and soon wants to enroll in Karate. I think it is great and all but we only do one sport at a time, we are there to have fun and it doesn't have to be a complete family affair. I am ok with that, my kids are ok with that, all is well in the end. I am big on manners, my kids always say please, thank you, excuse me and address adults with a title. This is my thing although I think it is important doesn't mean that if other parents let their kids call me Anji I should judge, that is their way.
I saw this mom with 3 young children in line at Wal-mart the other day and her baby was crying the whole time. She had a rambuncious preschooler and a school aged child that needed to go to the restroom right then and of course for whatever reason her credit card was not working. I could just see the stress in her face and wanted to give her a hug. She turned around red-faced and said I'm so sorry. I replied It's ok I have kids I totally understand, thinking to myself I have been that mom! I stayed in line behind her even though another lane opened because I didn't want some impatient person standing behind her adding to the stress. I talked to her kids and felt like I made that part of her trip just a little bit better. Shouldn't we always try to do this for each other?